Expectations are dandelions. Just one or two seem harmless even jolly. And we learn from a young age to pick them, leaving their springs deep in the grime beneath, and to blow our big desires into our little pass. And then they spread.
Humans expecting something in return for anything, and everything, they put into the world. Specially when it comes to relationships. These are dandelions. And Im looking around in all the gardens around me to cloaks of yellow petals weeds disguised as flowers.
You see it every day, the small intricacies others do or say about each other that suggest, in the simplest and unnoticed actions, that they own or belong to each other.
When I check the words Im so thankful that youre pit, the only ones I can think of are Holly Golightly adding, parties dont belong to parties. They dont. You cannot own a human being. And they do not owe you anything.
But you think that they do. Particularly so if you give your mind to them. You expect them to give you something in return for that.
The utterances I love you, in a romantic appreciation are usually said for selfish reasonableness: to hear it back; exactly to say it, so you know you said it, if anything happens, for your own personal part of psyche; but principally, to hear it back.
All the broken-hearted anthems and verse of unrequited cherish, and lost beloved, and precisely a general I deserve you, why dont you cherish me back simply because I love you. These are dandelions.
Stop affection simply to find cherish. This is not love. But your lawn is filled with dandelions, and theyve told you that it is.
Love entire humans time to desire them.
And dont ask them to love you in return.
Leave the dandelions alone to take over someone elses life, though I know theyre going to get tempting. I know you will see everyone else, with bids in their hands, spreading the seeds that will ultimately destroy anything healthy they could possibly have.
But leave them be.
Lay some stable concrete down beneath your hoofs. Ask only one person to love you every single era: yourself.
Some you cherish may not love you in return.
Some may take advantage of the love you give and you may still revoke it at any time.
But keep desiring them. Without expectation.
And when if they love you or if they dont: youve laid out your own foot a slab of self-fulfillment, certificate, and stability without a covering of weeds.
And, my dear, you will be just fine.